Let me be honest: I don’t always get it right.
There are days I snap when I should have paused. Days I feel pulled thin—between work deadlines, financial pressure, school emails, and half-eaten dinners that go cold while I’m still replying to “just one more” message. There are moments I silently wonder: Am I really the man my family needs?
But here’s what I’m learning—fatherhood is less about getting everything right, and more about
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Hey Birthday Star,
So, you’re planning your big party – and it’s going to be amazing! Balloons, cake, music, and all your favourite games. But then something surprising happened: Dad asked you to invite at least four boys to join in the fun. You raised your eyebrows and asked the million-dollar question:
“But… why does it matter?”
Great question. And here’s the real, honest answer — because it helps you grow your
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I sit here after a training session that ended not with tired satisfaction, but with a heavy heart and a knot of disappointment. Kingkong, soon to step onto the demanding pitch of academy football, and I, trying desperately to prepare him, hit a wall. And the impact left cracks.
It should have been one of those crisp early sessions where growth and joy meet on the grass. Instead, it ended with frustration and silence.
We were working
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If you’ve been following Quiet Battles, Are the Stars Finally Aligning?, and The Beautiful Lessons of a First Sports Day, you’ll know our journey through the grassroots football trenches has been part sweat, part sacrifice, and a whole lot of sideline soul-searching. This weekend marked another chapter in the story: KingKong’s first end-of-season awards ceremony with his new semi-professional academy side.
If you’ve been following along in Parenting Beyond Performance and Third time lucky, you’ll know that this journey with my son has been anything but ordinary. From emotional football trials to quiet parental battles and the high-stakes third trial, we’ve been riding a roller-coaster of growth, grit, and grace.
But nothing could have prepared me for the unexpectedly profound—and slightly hilarious—life lessons waiting for us at his first
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In Parenting Beyond Performance, I reflected on the heart and mind behind raising a son who doesn’t fit the box. Then came Third time lucky where I shared the emotional build-up to my son’s third and final football academy trial—the early mornings, the long drives, the moments of quiet doubt, and the prayers whispered under my breath.
Today, I write with a full heart: he made it. He
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My name is Kelly-Kester. 
‘Influential fathers’ was created to help fathers and aspiring fathers to become FATHERS of GREATER INFLUENCE. Fathers play an important role in every society but many fathers are workaholics and are increasingly overwhelmed by the demands of competing priorities. This usually affect their level of influence in the life of their children and beyond their home.